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The Best Thai Dating Sites – & Some Good Advice!

Sites overview | Date-safe tips | In-depth reviews | Avoiding bargirls | Casual dating | Advice for success

Thai dating sites have become extremely popular in the last few years, and many fruitful relationships now begin this way.

In my circle of friends, I know of three couples that have met through online dating, and I also know a number of single, English-speaking Thai women active on such sites.

Online dating is the modern way of meeting a partner, and statistics show that users will reach nearly 400m in 2023 (1).

That said, you should be as cautious about the online dating process in Thailand as you would in your own country.

Sensible Dating

You should make sure you’re well informed before you start out, not just about the women themselves but also regarding the legitimacy of the site.

For example: how many members belong to the site, how active the community is, the pricing model and the level of customer service.

While you should be cautious, you should be excited too!

Online dating is now the preferred way to meet women, and in many ways it's better than nightclubs, bars and personal introductions, which can often turn into a nightmare.

It’s not just those looking for a relationship that can benefit from Thai dating sites, either. Men traveling on business or going for a holiday in the region can find a date online for their visit.

In this post, I'm going to give you some top tips for using Thai dating sites, and provide you with a comparison and overview of my experience with the best.

If you can't be bothered to read the in-depth reviews of each, you can click on the links in the shorter overview list below.

4 Best Thai Dating Sites (Overview)

  1. Thaicupid (Biggest membership – most popular)
  2. Thaifriendly (Great reputation for everyday women & fun encounters)
  3. AsianDating (Find Thai women abroad & other SE Asian ladies)
  4. MyLadyBoyDate (Transgender Dating)

Before we look at these sites individually, let's run through a few top tips to make sure you don't run into any problems.

3 Date-Safe Tips Before You Start

Before we get into the sites, let me just offer up 3 tips that will keep you safe.

These rules are common sense, but worth reminding yourself of before you get carried away with the thousands of potential partners you’re going to be viewing in the coming days.

  1. Engage with the person you're interested in for a good month or two before arranging a meet up. This gives you time to be confident that they are who they say they are.
  2. Never send money to someone you have never met, no matter the excuse they give.
  3. Don’t give out your home phone number or address until you have met the person, or at least chatted over Skype and had a video conversation.

Now onto the best sites:

Top 4 Thai Dating Websites

1. ThaiCupid.com

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Thai Cupid has a membership database of 1.5 million, and a whopping 70% of the female online Thai dating network.

If I were to enter the Thai dating world now, this would be my first choice.

Operated by Cupidmedia, a company that owns many other dating sites in a broad range of ethnic niches, TC is probably the most popular dating site for foreign men seeking Thai women.

It has been going for over 10 years, and is by all accounts the biggest of them all.

Overview

If you want a broad selection of genuine women, with decent jobs – 21-40 years old – this site is a good place to begin.

On my most recent visit I found 2,136 people online, and over 1,000 active profiles for the aforementioned age group.

Like all dating sites, functionality is restricted to the membership you have.

Thai Cupid is free to join, but with free you can only send 1 message every 15 minutes, and you won't be able to message all members (some have restricted profiles that only paid members can view).

This is a tad frustrating because you have to wait for the response. But hey, it's free! Send a message, make a cup of tea, and then repeat.

Free membership won't get you video chat either, which is a great feature to use once you've established a connection with someone.

Your membership level also determines how far up in the search results your profile will appear; so bear in mind that those extra few dollars can make a big difference to your success.

ThaiCupid Pricing

One great feature of ThaiCupid is the translation service that comes with the Gold package ($34.99 per month / or $69.99 for 3 months – that's less than a dollar a day).

This translates messages for both parties, preventing cross wires and breaking down the language barrier.

For higher profile visibility, unlimited message sending and video messaging capability, go Platinum ($39.99 a month / or $79.99 per month – that's still less than a dollar a day)

The paid plans aren't expensive when you think of it on a day-to-day basis:

Gold:

  • 1 month – $34.99 / £23.33
  • 3 months – $69.99 / £46.66 (Good value at less than a dollar a day)
  • 12 months – $139.99 / £93.33 (Best value at less than 0.50 Cents a day)

Platinum:

  • 1 month – $39.99 / £27.49
  • 3 months – $79.99 / £54.99 (Good value at less than a dollar a day)
  • 12 months – $159.99 / £109.99 (Best value at less than 0.50 Cents a day)

For everything in Gold, plus video messaging capability, go Platinum.

For an extra few dollars, I'd say it's worth it to be able to communicate face-to-face with a potential dream date!

+ Check the profiles on ThaiCupid here


2. ThaiFriendly

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ThaiFriendly has gained solid popularity among the expat community and overseas date seekers over the last few years, growing to a huge 1m+ members.

It is independently run and doesn't have the corporate backing of ThaiCupid, which is evident by the low budget design.

But don't let that put you off: it's easy to use and has all the functionality you need.

Overview

The site is popular because it caters to a slightly different crowd than TC.

By that I mean you a broader cross-section of women.

Think younger women like uni students, and singles in the city seeking a bit more of a “fun” relationship, rather than those women of an age where settling down is a priority.

I always think approaching dating too seriously can land you in as much hot water as going in too loosely, so to speak.

And searching around I get the distinct feeling a few of the profiles I saw were women playing away from home, which may well appeal to some.

ThaiFriendly is fun. It has to be said. You could easily whittle a way an evening browsing the profile here – there's such a broad selection of people.

It really is a fun place to socialize by sending messages, and of course to make “special friends”.

Thai Friendly Pricing

TF is free to register and there's no obligation for a paid membership. You can begin sending messages straight away, but bear in mind that to begin chatting on instant messenger and have live chats you'll need to upgrade.

The pricing structure hasn't changed much in the last 5 years. It operates a simple, flat rate fee, which is reflective of its overall “easy-going” vibe.

  • Option A) $24.95 for a 30-day membership
  • Option B) $49.95 for a 3-month membership
  • Option C) $69.95 for 6 month
  • Option D) $99.95 for a 1-year (365-day) membership

+ View profiles on Thai Friendly here


3. AsianDating

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AsianDating is often overlooked because people head straight to ThaiCupid.

But don’t forget that Thai women live over the world, and indeed there are great women of other South East Asian origin living in Thailand, too.

If you are seeking to start a long-distance relationship, you might also do well to consider Asian Dating.

Overview

This site has a good global reach, so you might meet an Asian lady in your home country, Thailand, or a country other than Thailand.

By nature, this makes AsianDating a place with a diverse membership and some fantastic single women to chat with.

Like sister site ThaiCupid, CupidMedia also owns Asian Dating. It is very popular with expats living in Thailand, Singapore, Malaysia, and China, and also guys living in the US and UK.

If you want to open your mind beyond Thai women, you’ll find a lot of women on here from the Philippines, China, Malaysia, and Indonesia.

Asian Dating Pricing

The membership pricing and functions unlocked by upgrading from a free to a paid plan is essentially the same as ThaiCupid, but a bit cheaper.

Gold:

  • 1 month – $29.99
  • 3 months – $59.99
  • 12 months – $119.99

Platinum:

  • 1 month – $34.99
  • 3 months – $69.99
  • 12 months – $149.99

+ See Asian Dating profiles here


4. MyLadyBoyDate

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If Thailand's third gender is your preference, MyLadyBoyDate is the platform for you.

There are ladyboys from all over the world on the site, but predominately from Asia – mostly Thailand and the Philippines.

The owners of the site (a couple – man and ladyboy) take the business very seriously and are hot on keeping the site for serious members only.

Overview

The site is free for transgender woman, which has naturally resulted in a large membership base (110k members).

The fact that men have to pay has created a sensible barrier for entry. This means that only serious members gain access, and probably the reason so many relationship have emerged from this dating site.

  • 110,000+ profiles (rigorously screened)
  • Instant messaging feature
  • Compatible with smartphones and tablets
  • Safe and discreet

MLBD Pricing

Premium membership is $29.90 per month, with advantageous discounts if you buy several months.

If can read further information on this site in my MyLadyBoyDate review.


How to Avoid Bargirls on Thai Dating Sites

Like any other single woman, many bar girls – both those having sex for money and those solely working in the entertainment industry as a dancer or hostess – are looking for a partner.

So yes, it is likely you’ll occasionally come across such women on dating sites.

You may be able to identify such women by their working hours, or the fact that they say they don’t work yet still have the cash to sign up for a premium membership.

Be aware that many that some of these girls may be serial daters and probably have a man in every port, so to speak. Some may not work the bars and may just be dating-savvy; hooking a sugar daddy here and there.

Ladies of the night usually have a reasonable command of broken English (or “barglish” as it’s called), yet no education past the age of 15 to justify a formal education in the language.

Such women are also likely to have children from previous relationships: married off young in the village and left with children by an abusive/alcoholic/gambling husband. This is a very common truth, which I wrote about here.

This may not be an issue for you and, depending on what you’re looking for, you may not mind what a person does for a living, or whether they have dependents or other guys in their life.

However, I think it’s a good idea to be clear on the type of woman you are looking for before you start, and the type you don't want. That way you can spot the traits in a person that you want to avoid.

The last thing you want is to end up dating a woman who is solely seeking financial support for her family, and isn’t genuinely interested in what you’re looking for.

Start off on the right foot and seek a woman that shares your interests, values and intentions.

A Word on “Casual Dating”

If you’re just looking for intimacy, these Thai dating sites probably aren’t the place for you. If you want an escort for short encounters, then check out Smooci here.

You’ll notice that on many dating profiles the women state that they are seeking a life partner, soul mate or “good man”, as opposed to a one-night stand.

If you do see a profile advertising a bit of fun in the sack, you can almost guarantee you’ll end up paying for it, or at least having to entertain the woman financially for a period of time.

That said, these experiences will vary from site to site.

Sound Advice for Dating Success

Research shows that the secret to success in online dating is to aim high, keep it brief, and persevere (2).

  1. Send lots of messages: keep persevering
  2. Aim high: set your bar high, even if you think a person is out of your league, go for it.
  3. Keep it brief: don't send people essays, keep communication to the point
  4. Be patient: women, especially, tend not to rush in. So be patient and be prepared to play a long game.

I wish you the best of luck with your search for a wonderful Thai lady. Believe me, there are loads out there.

Remember: people seldom spend time writing about how great their relationship is, which means you tend only to read about the bad experiences online.

Thai women are generally fabulous people. Trust me, I know, I married one!

If you met your partner on a Thai dating site, please feel free to share your experiences in the comments section below, so that you can help others do the same.

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  1. Tom says

    November 25, 2021 at 7:49 am

    Hi Peter,

    I travel to Thailand about 4 times a year for 3-4 weeks per visit. Mizzthai,com sounds interesting as a short term fun travel partner could be fun.

    Anyway, the website link didn't work. Have you heard anything as to why the site might be down (maybe just because all travel is down)?
    Reply

    Nov 25, 2021 at 7:49 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 25, 2021 at 7:16 pm

      Hi Tom, seems like MizzThai has gone under, probably because of COVID. I've removed it from my list for now. To be fair, you could find the same on Thai Friendly, so perhaps try your luck there. It has been going many years and has lots of members.
      Reply

      Nov 25, 2021 at 7:16 pm

  2. Pat Gavin says

    March 25, 2021 at 1:39 am

    Hi Peter,
    This is Pat....a "Newbie"....Greetings from Ireland!!
    I have just discovered Your site....I have learned more from you and your site this afternoon....then in past 9 months of research on YouTube....of course some good stuff and Info on there...but found your uploads and insights more informative, easy on the eye, and fairly simplistic...not rocket science!!
    I am planning to retire in Thailand....but...having taken a lot of info and advice onboard....plan to do it in a in a structured way....not put all "the eggs in the one basket" at once so to speak! I plan to do it in 3 month cycles...visit different parts of the country before deciding where to settle I !had already booked my first cycle for June, July and August '20, but the Pandemic put paid to that for now!
    Would value your opinion and experience about my proposed plans.
    I would add I am single , not into spending all the time in bars or entertainment areas....As have had enough of the busy groundhog day life!
    Any thoughts would be appreciated
    Pat Gavin (aka Shamrock Nomad)
    Reply

    Mar 25, 2021 at 1:39 am

    • JamesE says

      March 25, 2021 at 2:14 am

      That sounds like an excellent plan. No need to put your visit off. Quarantine isn't so bad and the incarceration time will be dropping to ten days on 1-April. That's enough time to get over jet-lag and plan your excursion details. Going through Peter's site can really help point you in some good directions. There are many comments on the good parts, and bad, of almost every corner of Thailand. The one thing I always suggest is to start learning Thai. That will help you more than any other thing you can do. Good luck in your search.
      Reply

      Mar 25, 2021 at 2:14 am

  3. Jeff says

    November 29, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    I'm retired and have been living with my Thai girlfriend in Bangkok for 3 years now. Absolutely love it and the best decision I've made in my life. Thai women for the most part are naturally sweet women and will take care of their partner completely. Attitudes toward older foreigners is positive here also.
    Reply

    Nov 29, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 30, 2020 at 8:07 pm

      That's great Jeff. I wish you all the best.
      Reply

      Nov 30, 2020 at 8:07 pm

  4. Andrew says

    February 5, 2020 at 12:39 pm

    I met a lovely lady on Thai Cupid. After 6 months I met her. Now we are happily married and she is a dream. We took it slow, married after 3 years of messaging and my traveling back every few months. If you want the real thing TC is the way to go, just take it slow.
    Reply

    Feb 05, 2020 at 12:39 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      February 5, 2020 at 4:56 pm

      That's great to hear, Andrew. Best wishes to you both.
      Reply

      Feb 05, 2020 at 4:56 pm

      • Andrew says

        November 1, 2020 at 12:43 pm

        Thanks for the best wishes. My wife and I are still going strong andI wouldn't have thought it possible but we seem to love each other more everyday. just wanted to add to my original post that we Falang tend to rush things. Thai's by their very nature are shy, guess the point I'm trying to make is if she is pushing you it's a good chance your one of many honey pots. Slow and steady wins the race and life couldn't be happier.Don't let previous children put you off; my lady had 3 daughters and while at first a bit daunting, those girls really do complete me and I love them as my own. There are a lot of horror stories that we have all heard but there are some winners also. Genuine ladies tend not to "ask or hint" about how beautiful a bag, shoes etc are.) Have patience and faith, may you all I find the winning lottery ticket. I certainly did. ANDREW (Australia)
        Reply

        Nov 01, 2020 at 12:43 pm

        • TheThailandLife says

          November 1, 2020 at 5:12 pm

          Thanks for sharing your story. We get used to reading negative experiences online because people generally don't post about the happy times. But there are plenty of guys (and women) out there like you who have found happiness with someone.
          Reply

          Nov 01, 2020 at 5:12 pm

  5. James E says

    October 20, 2019 at 9:13 am

    Okay, I'm not in the market but my brain is always playing what-if even when I don't want it to and today it did. 'K? I was walking in Thonburi after checking out some of the new MRT stations and it was hot and I was getting parched so I stopped into a tea shop. It was a great little tea shop where a lemon tea is made from scratch right before your eyes starting with cold water, tea and fresh lemons all for 30 baht. But I digress. Sitting there I realized that the tea and snacks was only a sideline. Clearly the shop owner couldn't make the rent just selling iced tea to random farang who wander in from the heat. The money, pretty obviously once I started reading the signs on the walls, came from the WiFi-for-rent and the online computers set up for Skype. All of them were idle. Ah-ha! Said my suddenly active "What-If" lobe. The connections and PCs are idle because the people who would be using them are all currently at work. In the evening, my subconscious reported, they would all be full of happy Thai women checking their online dating accounts. Which led me to consider that the best place to meet your new BFF is not at work, or in the bars, or even online, it would be in a place like this. First, the clientele is preselected from your target demographic. Second, *you're* preselected from *their* target demographic. Third, it's a much more intimate location than a bar or even a Starbucks kind of place - everybody is concentrated and it's quieter than a bar but more open to table-to-table conversation without having to shout. Plus, you have the added benefit of being the only farang in the room and uniquely qualified to answer any farang-oriented questions that might pop up. And, (thank god) finally, you're starting out as more than just a picture on a screen. Seems like it might be a good idea.(?) Anyway, as I said, I'm not in the market and me going and testing my theory would be ill-advised on many different levels so the proof, as they say, is left up to the reader.
    Reply

    Oct 20, 2019 at 9:13 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      October 22, 2019 at 7:10 pm

      What's the name of this cafe? Not that I'm in the market or anything, haha!It's a good point though. I love independent cafe/tea shops. Great just to chill and people watch.
      Reply

      Oct 22, 2019 at 7:10 pm

    • Martin1 says

      March 25, 2021 at 7:07 pm

      Actually i would prefer to meet a woman who can afford both a computer and an Internet line.
      I am not into dating the working poor.
      Reply

      Mar 25, 2021 at 7:07 pm

      • TheThailandLife says

        March 25, 2021 at 7:48 pm

        Not even if she was selfless, compassionate, and kind? I think it would actually be quite cool to date a woman with no internet access, computer or phone. That way there would be no social media and constant phone checking. We could get out into nature and live in the real world :)
        Reply

        Mar 25, 2021 at 7:48 pm

        • JamesE says

          March 25, 2021 at 10:22 pm

          Reminds me of the entire world pre-1988...
          Reply

          Mar 25, 2021 at 10:22 pm

        • Martin1 says

          March 27, 2021 at 9:02 am

          Of course, if she is selfless, compassionate, and kind then I wouldn't even bother about her IT belongings.
          ;-)

          Constant phone checking is a pain in the a**! I really hate it (I am Gen. X). But it is thing of education. If we sit together and are supposed to talk I could not bear it if anyone is using their phone at such times.
          I would consider it as rude, impolite, and no manners, and would never date such a girl. Either Facebook or me when we are at a restaurant e.g.
          Reply

          Mar 27, 2021 at 9:02 am

  6. pickles says

    May 15, 2019 at 3:42 pm

    I met my GF on TC and we've been together 2 years. I'm with you on those tips, use your brain and don't be led by your pecker :)
    Reply

    May 15, 2019 at 3:42 pm

  7. Thai joop fake says

    May 1, 2019 at 3:20 pm

    just FYI I tried Thai Joop (Joob?) app and so many software errors it never works correctly. And I'm sure most of the girls are fake or robots because they never say anything besides "hello" and "thanks" never reply again. And the information on their profile does not make sense, must be all fake.

    I paid for premium upgrade and it was not better.
    Reply

    May 01, 2019 at 3:20 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      May 1, 2019 at 7:00 pm

      That's why it is best to stick with the reputable (big) companies like Thai Cupid.
      Reply

      May 01, 2019 at 7:00 pm

  8. E. says

    May 23, 2018 at 2:23 am

    Tried Smooci. Loved it! pricier than most bargirls ( for the most part ) but good fun! Will try something more sustainable and lasting next visit. Good advice to communicate on-line for a few months in advance of meeting. i used a dating site many years ago ( that s now a schill for overpriced flowers!!.) Had a good time with her when we finally met. No sex. We were contimplating marriage and she Insisted on " Friends first! Not toy! " , which I really respected. S*x is easy to find in Thailand. Love takes time patience look and some diligence. After losing my wife of twenty years to lung disease, waiting a year and using Smooci. ( and some of my own individual BKK bar crawling ) was a very good idea. Thanks for the intro!
    Reply

    May 23, 2018 at 2:23 am

  9. noah says

    November 29, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    I've been using several of the sites before heading to Thailand just to give them a whirl. As I'm in my 20s and very good-looking, it isn't hard for me to find matches on dating sites. That being said, my experience is this:Thaicupid.com is much more for older men looking to marry and settle down. Almost all of the women on there are oriented towards long-term relationships and support and usually will say so. Also, I've gotten upwards of 50 messages (at time of writing) and can only see the two sent by premium members. If you aren't a premium member, you can't really contact potential dates... so not great unless you want a wife and are willing to cough up the premium fees.Thai Joop is an interesting app that seems to have a lot less users, though messaging isn't limited to premium members. However, it seems to me to that many of the profiles are bots. Also, I think a lot of messages don't get sent, seen, or received...although it seemed cool initially, the app doesn't work well at all, so I definitely do not recommend.ThaiFriendly.com, referred to as TF from many of the girls I've chatted with, seems to be the best option. And even if you aren't interested in the large number of 18-28 year old girls on there, there seem to be more and more older members who are actively on there (yes, they've contacted me too). Messaging as a free member is frustrating because they make you wait in between sending messages, but once there's mutual interest I just take the discussion to the Line app and continue uninhibited. Many girls will even put their Line ID in their profiles or send it to you if they are interested. The amount of profile info is very little, but that might be some of its appeal.All the girls I've talked to so far seem very tired of farang on the dating sites asking about sex, money, nude photos, etc and usually wonder why such users don't just find a bargirl or go to Pattaya. But if you just respect them as the women they are, I've found many are open to more casual situations and having fun. If you want to indulge in your misogyny you'll have to pay for sex, or you could be a decent human being and have a fling with any number of interesting hot Thai girls. Choice is yours.
    Reply

    Nov 29, 2017 at 7:16 pm

  10. Ian says

    November 27, 2017 at 4:28 am

    I met a beautiful Thai lady through ThaiCupid.
    I am 59 and she is 57.
    We were together for 3 weeks in October 2017. I am going to see her again in December 2017.
    In my experience this is a great site. I had never used internet dating before.
    Reply

    Nov 27, 2017 at 4:28 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 27, 2017 at 6:29 pm

      Great news. I wish you all the best for your trip.
      Reply

      Nov 27, 2017 at 6:29 pm

  11. REO WEED says

    November 8, 2017 at 11:58 am

    What site is probably the real thing, if i only want sex? I am not after relationship or marry. I just want women for sex. Maybe women who did not have sex for a long time. in Australia and England there are sites with women looking men only for sex dating. no relation ship wanted. If I would live in Australia I have so many who wanted sex dating with me and nothing more, and I could have one every day. Is there some site like this for men and women looking for no relationship but sex only. Is there one for MILFS, I mean older ladies that want to have that special again in their lonely life. I guess it is different here. By the way I like your comments about all the dating sites. it seems fair and made very nice and friendly.
    Reply

    Nov 08, 2017 at 11:58 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 8, 2017 at 5:03 pm

      You could try Thai Friendly for that, but be upfront about what you are looking for, i.e. no strings attached. But in this situation I think you have to be prepared to at least wine and dine the lady; go out to a restaurant, or even away for the weekend. Of course, this isn't an uncommon scenario. This is quite common in the UK, US, Aus and elsewhere. If you are looking for a "travel companion", then Mizz Thai caters for exactly that. The idea would be that you pay for a lady to accompany you on a trip and you pay the hotel, meals, etc, and then the romance becomes a part of that.
      Reply

      Nov 08, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    • Adam Reece says

      December 20, 2017 at 8:52 am

      REO WEED, I am in Australia and wonder where are those sites where could you find a lady everyday for sex? I have been trying for couple of years now and haven't had a chance on tinder etc. Please kindly share those sites. I am in Sydney by the way and just looking for casual sex dates or one night stands. Thanks.
      Reply

      Dec 20, 2017 at 8:52 am

  12. Pat says

    October 24, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Thai Friendly by far the best for the younger girls 22-28. It helps if you don't start talking about sex or send/ask for nude photos on your first chat (many ''normal'' (hate that word, but it's Thailand) I chatted with cited this annoyance)...not sure why many farang seem to think it's the done thing, they should stick to the Tinder dregs or bar girls.

    Patience and politeness will get you dates with good girls who have had enough of Thai guys, and many haven't got that hangup about guys over 35.
    Reply

    Oct 24, 2017 at 1:45 pm

  13. Marc k Langenhahn says

    October 5, 2017 at 12:27 am

    This is the best information out there. Nice job ! I am going to Phuket for 3 weeks in Nov. I have been married 3 times. I lived in Honduras. Beautiful girls, but after living and dating there for 5 years I got married and came back to the states.Then everything changed. The 1stone was great, perfect wife but her kids became a problem and we broke up. Sucked. then the 2nd one wanted to work and when she got here that was all she wanted to do and not help out or travel with me, All about sending money home then the 3rd one, we went out for 5 years she came to the states and it lasted 5 months.Part of it is my fault. I went out with them for 18 to 23 or so got married and as they matured they wanted different things. Can't blame them. But the last one when I told her I was taking her home waited until the date before she was to go home called the police, said I had held her hostage for 5 months beat here daily that I was an assassin for Pablo Escobar and on and on. I was arrested, charge were of course dropped. But now that is on my record for domestic violence.
    Reply

    Oct 05, 2017 at 12:27 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      October 5, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      Damn, that's quite a life story. I am surprised after the second wife you didn't decide to stay single :)
      Reply

      Oct 05, 2017 at 4:14 pm

  14. alex says

    August 20, 2017 at 4:20 am

    thanks for the help and keep up the good work on your site
    Reply

    Aug 20, 2017 at 4:20 am

  15. Sparkle says

    June 21, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    What about sites for us lonely farang women looking for the one Thai man who isn't afraid of foreign women???
    Reply

    Jun 21, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      June 22, 2017 at 3:00 am

      I often wondered that but perhaps the demand is so small I guess it hasn't warranted a site thus far. Afraid of foreign women? Really? I've not heard that before. Most single Thai men would love a foreign wife, as long as she has money ! :)
      Reply

      Jun 22, 2017 at 3:00 am

  16. Maurice says

    May 3, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    Thanks for this. I've been reading over your blog and yours is about the only one I've come across that seems genuine and written with real insight and intelligence. I'm going to check out a couple of these Thai dating sites for my upcoming holiday as I don't really like the bar scene. If you don't mind I'll drop you an email to ask a couple of more personal questions rather than posting them here.
    Reply

    May 03, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      May 3, 2017 at 11:51 pm

      Sure, I'll do my best to answer them. All the best with your trip.
      Reply

      May 03, 2017 at 11:51 pm

  17. Dannyboy says

    February 19, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    Thanks for your reply by email. I did reply back but not sure you got it so posting here. The best Thai dating site in my opinion is defo Thaicupid. I've met a girl on there and we've been in touch now for 3 weeks. Hoping to visit in the summer. TF.com seems good and I got lots of interests but does seem a bit more racy!
    Reply

    Feb 19, 2017 at 5:09 pm

  18. wordi says

    December 11, 2016 at 11:42 pm

    An update on this: I reported it to both customer service at TLL and security. Neither replied, and the 'girl' is still a member, presumably catching other guys out. Worse still I've just been through exactly the same procedure with another 'girl'.

    To avoid this happening to you: stay on site; note if the replies appear to be copy and pasted - not specific to the conversation; be suspicious if they want to shift to another site; ask them to video - the TLL site is video capable.

    Good luck! It's a jungle out there chaps.
    Reply

    Dec 11, 2016 at 11:42 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      December 12, 2016 at 12:01 am

      Yes. Basically Truly Thai are posting profiles on other sites in a bid to lure guys over to their site and pay a subscription. I have reported it to TC, TF, MT and TLL. Heard back from TC and TF, both of whom are aware of this and are looking into what they can do to stop it. One simple rule is not to be lured off site!
      Reply

      Dec 12, 2016 at 12:01 am

  19. Robin says

    September 4, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    Hi, I have just visited ThaiCupid which expects you to scan your id as proof. The problem with this is I do not want to give my real name but with id I cannot disguise. What do others feel?

    Also, I notice all talk is generally for western men. What Thai women think of Asian men obviously non-Thai? Any advice?

    Thanks, Rob
    Reply

    Sep 04, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      February 17, 2017 at 10:07 pm

      That is to verify your identity and to prevent scammers using the site. I think it's a really good addition because it protects the members.

      You can still use a screen name, you don't need to show your real name.

      In terms of Asian men, different strokes for different folks. Many Thai women prefer Asian men over western men and vice versa.
      Reply

      Feb 17, 2017 at 10:07 pm

  20. Alex says

    August 14, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Great research! Thanks! :)
    Reply

    Aug 14, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      February 17, 2017 at 10:07 pm

      No worries. Hope it helped. Sorry for the late response!
      Reply

      Feb 17, 2017 at 10:07 pm

  21. Martin says

    February 15, 2016 at 3:24 am

    Why isn't DateInAsia (DIA) is not listed?

    During your Research, did you make bad experiances with that site? I don't actually, except that my Profile got locked one time for unknown reasons. I protested, and they unlocked it.

    Kind regards,

    Martin
    Reply

    Feb 15, 2016 at 3:24 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      February 15, 2016 at 10:25 am

      I did research DIA and didn't include it in my list because I started getting spam emails after registering for the free trial. Perhaps I will revisit this option and drop them an email about what happened.
      Reply

      Feb 15, 2016 at 10:25 am

    • Robert says

      March 19, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      I have read online reviews about the Date In Asia type sites and users' experience has been that, once the sites get your credit card number, there is no stopping them from syphoning funds, even when a member wants to discontinue. I saw a couple of ladies I wanted to contact but was cut off until I paid up. The approach of the site worried me and I gave up. What has your experience been?
      Reply

      Mar 19, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      • Martin says

        January 23, 2018 at 10:34 pm

        Yeah, MGTOW!
        Women are ballast.
        :-)))
        Reply

        Jan 23, 2018 at 10:34 pm

  22. Gordon says

    February 3, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    ThaiCupid is a bonafide site if you're looking for decent women. Of course, like all dating sites you're going to get some fakers and some nutters, but that goes for men too and the women have to be careful. I've been on there coming up 6 months and met a number of potential long-term suitors and had a few dates, all of which were pleasant and one lady I have continued to see. Out of the bunch it seems the one that cares the most about security and confidentiality, which in this day and age when joining a website is very important.
    Reply

    Feb 03, 2016 at 3:51 pm

  23. Marc says

    January 15, 2016 at 2:23 pm

    Stay away from Truly Thai. It's a fake websites that steals pictures from FB etc. to create fake profiles. I know this as I knew some of the girls on there and asked if they had profiles on there.

    The website obviously uses them to get guys to pay the membership.

    You've been warned.
    Reply

    Jan 15, 2016 at 2:23 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      January 15, 2016 at 4:21 pm

      I have reviewed a lot of those type of sites when doing my research. Thanks for reporting that.
      Reply

      Jan 15, 2016 at 4:21 pm

  24. Chris says

    January 13, 2016 at 11:20 am

    First off, thanks for the article. Made it really easy to get started!

    I have to say, after comparing the "talent" on ThaiCupid and ThaiFriendly, the size of the user database isn't really a plus on ThaiCupid. I'm struggling to find even a few decent looking girls who are using ThaiCupid recently, and I'm getting loads of messages from girls that I'm not remotely attracted to. I'd say the interest I'm getting is more annoying than useful so far.

    ThaiFriendly seems to have a lot more ladyboys, which is not really my thing, but there are tons of downright gorgeous real girls using the site regularly. The main downside is there is no profile info for English language ability, and the search is a bit limited past age, height, and location.

    I'm a picky guy regarding looks, so take it with a grain of salt, but I think the users are much more appropriate on ThaiFriendly for younger westerners who are used to dating attractive young girls.
    Reply

    Jan 13, 2016 at 11:20 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      January 13, 2016 at 4:11 pm

      I take your point, but TF seems to have more "freelance" type women on there. If you are looking for something a bit more serious with a woman within 10 years of your age, who is more independent - own job, own money - ThaiCupid is a better choice IMO.
      Reply

      Jan 13, 2016 at 4:11 pm

  25. Henk Meevis says

    August 16, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    Is there a site where i could find women who are interested in dating with a man with the intention to go and live with the man in his country.
    Reply

    Aug 16, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      August 16, 2015 at 8:14 pm

      Hi Henk, I think your best bet would be Thai Cupid. That said, I'm sure many women would be open to this option if the relationship progressed to the point where such a decision needed to be made.
      Reply

      Aug 16, 2015 at 8:14 pm

  26. Dalca says

    July 22, 2015 at 2:59 am

    nobody mentioned this but on ThaiFriendly under one of the settings you can block viewing and messages from ladyboys. Does great job of filtering wouldn't say 100% but shouldn't have any concerns if have no interests in them. Don't judge a Thai lady by her pics. Many ladies are just confident with their bodies or think they're being sexy also playful. Doesn't automatically mean they looking for casual relationship or a bar girl. Educated career ladies like to let loose occasionally to.
    Reply

    Jul 22, 2015 at 2:59 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      July 22, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Great point Dalca, I missed that feature but I'll add it into my review. You're totally right about the pictures. Just because a Thai woman has a playful picture on a dating site doesn't mean she is a "working girl". We should all try be open-minded and non-judgemental, but with so much negative stereotyping going on sometimes it's hard to control your thoughts.
      Reply

      Jul 22, 2015 at 11:56 am

  27. Joe says

    June 18, 2015 at 7:15 am

    I signed up for ThaiFriendly about a month ago.
    I've met a lot of nice ladies looking for something real.
    Most of these have contacted me, as opposed to the other way around.
    So if you want to find quality women looking for a real relationship, you can certainly do that at this site. A couple weeks in I had to change my profile to show me as always being "offline", because too many women were contacting me (not a problem I've ever had using Match.com in the US). So, it's really not too difficult to look and choose the type of women you are interested in, in my opinion anyway. And also, I must say I am stunned every time I go into the site with the beauty of these Thai women. Even if I see a profile and know she wouldn't be for me (I'm a laid-back guy), or she looks like a bar-girl type, I still can't help looking at the photos. So many stunning women (and I'm short, so it's like they are all custom-made for me lol!).
    Reply

    Jun 18, 2015 at 7:15 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      June 19, 2015 at 10:13 am

      I think it's a good site, Joe. It has been around a while now so it has a solid membership base with a lot of female profiles. That said, ThaiCupid has far less Ladyboys and bar girls, if any at all, and a lot of educated women with good English speaking skills.
      Reply

      Jun 19, 2015 at 10:13 am

      • skylar says

        August 5, 2015 at 10:09 am

        I am a Good respectable Attractive Thai woman, Where can I find a good decent white male who's truly wants long lasting loving relationship. I have tried some of these sites But I found None.
        perhaps my destiny is to be alone....
        Would like to try again, I am always at home . only this way that I can meet someone.
        Reply

        Aug 05, 2015 at 10:09 am

        • TheThailandLife says

          August 5, 2015 at 12:06 pm

          Hi Skylar, I think the main problem is that most foreign guys come to Thailand for a single life and don't want to get tied down, especially the younger guys in their 20s and 30s. Most guys are trying to escape the "married life" expected of them back home. That said, many guys do get tired of late nights and beer after a while and end up finding a girlfriend, and then there are guys who don't like to sleep around and are looking for something more meaningful. I also think online dating in Thailand is the same as it is in any other country; very hit and miss, and takes a good while and a good number of dates before you find someone suitable. Stay positive, I'm sure Mr Right is out there.
          Reply

          Aug 05, 2015 at 12:06 pm

        • deepu says

          August 26, 2015 at 4:14 pm

          only decent white males.what kind of sin the blacks or wheatish committed ?? it was desire to date or marry a thai woman.By the way i am from india.
          Reply

          Aug 26, 2015 at 4:14 pm

  28. kick says

    June 14, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    Do you know truly thai? Is it serious website ?
    Reply

    Jun 14, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      June 14, 2015 at 3:00 pm

      Yes, these are serious websites. The top three I have tested thoroughly. For example, you can read a review of ThaiCupid here: https://www.thethailandlife.com/thaicupid-com-dating-review and a review of Thai Friendly here: https://www.thethailandlife.com/thai-friendly-review
      Reply

      Jun 14, 2015 at 3:00 pm

  29. Stuart C says

    December 4, 2014 at 3:14 pm

    I've done well on Thai Cupid but I must admit I enjoy browsing Thai Friendly...just window shopping of course...hehehe!
    Reply

    Dec 04, 2014 at 3:14 pm

  30. Stefan says

    October 30, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Thai Friendly is still my favorite and it's the only one that is really free. Yes you have to wait 10 mins before sending your next message but it also takes you only 3-4 messages to get the line contact / phone number of a Thai girl and do I need to arrange more than one date per day? Probably not. Also the interface of Thai Friendly is much nicer than Thai Cupid (they recently updated it) and by now I'm sure both have about the same number of members with many girls signed up on both websites.
    Reply

    Oct 30, 2014 at 9:11 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      October 30, 2014 at 12:31 pm

      That's not quite true Stefan, and certainly not my experience. As with pretty much all good dating sites, Thai Friendly is free only at a basic level. The subscription fees are as follows:Basic service: Free.Premium service: • 1 month subscription $18.95 • 3 month subscription $39.96 ($13.32/ month) • 6 month subscription $69.96 ($11.66/ month) • 12 month subscription $99.96 ($8.33/ month)During my hands-on review of all the Thai dating sites, I found ThaiFriendly to be fun but not the best in terms of serious dating. ThaiCupid is the best site to meet professional, educated Thai women, as well as down to earth, reliable women looking for a genuine relationship.If you aren't fussed about settling down and want some fun we girls aged 18-25, ThaiFriendly is a good option. During my review, I was contacted by a fair few "working girls" and ladyboys, but there were genuine girls too - though they were mostly early twenties and no doubt still into clubbing, drinking and well, being young and free.In terms of the user interface, you can't compete with ThaiCupid. As a big brand they have a serious development team constantly working to deliver better usability and enhanced features. That's not to say ThaiFriendly isn't easy to use, but it doesn't have the slick usability a professional sheen of Thaicupid.In my opinion it all depends on what type of relationship you are looking for.
      Reply

      Oct 30, 2014 at 12:31 pm

  31. Clive says

    September 28, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    I met my wife on thaicupid, was thai love links back then, and it's been the best thing that's happened to me. The site matched us up really well and the rest is history as they say. All the best, Clive.
    Reply

    Sep 28, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      September 28, 2014 at 11:10 pm

      Lovely story Clive. I wish you all the best. Thanks for sharing.
      Reply

      Sep 28, 2014 at 11:10 pm

  32. john says

    May 3, 2014 at 10:29 pm

    I have spent a good amount of time on the top 3 mentioned, thailovelinks is far superior if you actually want to know whom it is your interested in, much more info! such as their weight, and that's free, also, advanced search is free. For me if thailovelines is $1 I wouldn't give it! Thaifriendly has a HUGE % of prostitutes, in fact nude photos are not allowed on TLLinks. I have had a profile on thaifriendly about 8 months, 600 emails and about only 50 from girls wanting a relationship BUT not one has contacted me. In a week as free member on TLLinks, I had MANY good girls contact me.
    Reply

    May 03, 2014 at 10:29 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      May 8, 2014 at 3:39 pm

      Yes, I agree ThaiFriendly has attracted a reputation as being the sleazy hook up site. But then some people want that vibe, and it's slightly cheaper than the others.
      Reply

      May 08, 2014 at 3:39 pm

  33. JackP says

    April 19, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    I think Thaifriendly is pretty dead now.Thailovelinks imo is better for younger guys and Thailovelinks is better for older guys or guys looking for relationships or a wife.
    Reply

    Apr 19, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      April 21, 2014 at 9:09 pm

      Yes, I'd probably agree with that Jack, but their all free to join at a basic level so it's best to test the water and see what suits your criteria.
      Reply

      Apr 21, 2014 at 9:09 pm

    • Bkk Forum says

      May 19, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      I have to disagree, it has a simple platform that logically takes on more quick meetup type of ppl, compared to TLL, so in depth with info, actually TOO MUCH info per user imo. I like TF :)
      Reply

      May 19, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      • TheThailandLife says

        May 19, 2015 at 11:26 pm

        But I guess that's what makes it more of a hookup site, as opposed to ThaiCupid which is more of a serious Thai dating site.
        Reply

        May 19, 2015 at 11:26 pm

  34. chris says

    January 4, 2014 at 7:00 pm

    You should add Thai love web I'm having good success with it.
    Reply

    Jan 04, 2014 at 7:00 pm

  35. Mark S says

    November 27, 2013 at 11:17 am

    No problem. :)
    Reply

    Nov 27, 2013 at 11:17 am

  36. Mark S says

    November 26, 2013 at 10:39 pm

    Hey,Nice and in-depth post.Another way to identify bar girls on the sites is their photos. If all photos are them drinking and in clubs or bars then there's a good chance it's a bar girl. It's no guaranteed but most 'regular' girls don't like to put these photos up and certainly not all of them will be party photos.Definitely NEVER send money to anyone or tell them your home address if you haven't met them (don't give money to any girl at any point tbh) but I don't agree you need to chat for over 1 month before meeting. I meet girls within 24hrs of speaking to them on the dating sites. What's going to happen? If the girl in the pictures doesn't turn up I'll just leave. Men aren't going to have much problem.As for Thai dating sites not being places to find sex...if you want sex it's easy enough to find. If you want paid sex with bar girls it is there (personally that's not my thing and I don't see the point in using a dating site for that) and if you want one night stands and casual hook ups with girls that's available too. It's something that's much easier for the younger guys (say under 35 give or take a few years) but even older guys like me can find that if they go looking on Thai dating sites.What girls say on their profile and what they actually want and do are different things. They often say "if you want sex do not message me" etc because 99% of guys bombard then with endless sleazy messages talking about sex for money and other nonsense but if they meet a guy they get along with sex will be on the cards in a lot of cases. Just don't be that sleazy guy sending sex talk and you'll do just fine.Personally never tried Facebook to meet girls I might like to date. Prefer to keep FB restricted to friends and family and not add random girls I may or may not end up dating but it's an interesting way to meet girls.Anyway good article. Thanks for writing.All the best,Marc
    Reply

    Nov 26, 2013 at 10:39 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 27, 2013 at 5:09 am

      Great advice Mark, thanks for sharing your experience.
      Reply

      Nov 27, 2013 at 5:09 am

  37. Chucks says

    November 22, 2013 at 12:35 am

    i want one
    Reply

    Nov 22, 2013 at 12:35 am

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