Thai dating sites have become extremely popular in the last few years, and many fruitful relationships now begin this way.
In my circle of friends, I know of three couples who've met through online dating, and I also know a number of single, English-speaking Thai women active on such sites.
Online dating is the modern way of meeting a partner, and statistics show that users will reach nearly 400m by 2023 (1).
That said, you should be as cautious about the online dating process in Thailand as you would in your own country.
You should make sure you’re well informed before you start out, not just about the women themselves, but also regarding the legitimacy of the site.
For example: how many members are on board, how active the site is, the pricing model, and the level of customer service.
While you should be cautious, you should be excited too!
Online dating is now the preferred way to meet women, and in many ways it's better than nightclubs, bars and personal introductions, which can often turn into a nightmare.
It’s not just those looking for a relationship that can benefit from Thai dating sites, either. Men traveling on business or going for a holiday in the region find a date for their visit online.
In this post, I'm going to give you some top tips for using Thai dating sites, and provide you with a comparison and overview of my experience with the best.
If you can't be bothered to read my reviews of each one, you can click on the links in the list below to jump straight over to the websites I recommend:
Best Thai Dating Sites
- Thaicupid (Biggest membership – most popular)
- Thaifriendly (Great reputation for fun encounters)
- AsianDating (Find Thai women abroad & other SE Asian ladies)
- MyLadyBoyDate (Transgender Dating)
- Mizz Thai (Designed for holiday companionship)
- Smooci (Safe, short-time “dating”)
Before we look at these sites individually, let's run through a few top tips to make sure you don't run into any problems.
3 Essential Tips for Success
These rules apply to dating sites across the board. It’s common sense, but worth reminding yourself all the same – before you get carried away with the thousands of potential partners you’re going to be viewing.
- Engage with the person you're interested in over a good month or two before arranging a meet. This gives you time to be confident that they are who they say they are.
- Never send money to someone you have never met, no matter the excuse they give. There are scammers in every country, and Thailand is no exception.
- Don’t give out your home phone number or address until you have met the person, or at least Skyped and had a face-to-face conversation.
How to Avoid Bargirls on Thai Dating Sites
Like any other single woman, many bar girls – both those having sex for money and those solely working in the entertainment industry as a dancer or hostess – are looking for a partner.
So yes, it is likely you’ll occasionally come across such women.
You may be able to identify such women by their working hours, or the fact that they say they don’t work yet still had the cash to sign up for a premium membership. Be aware that many of these girls are serial daters, and probably have a man in every port, so to speak.
Ladies of the night usually have a reasonable command of English (or “barglish” as it’s called) yet no education past the age of 15 to justify it. Such women are also likely to have children from previous relationships.
For some men this isn’t a problem, and depending on what you’re looking for, you may not mind what a person does for a living, whether they have dependents or other guys in their life.
However, I think it’s a good idea to know the type of woman you are looking for before you start, and the type you don't want.
The last thing you want is to end up dating a woman who is solely seeking financial support for her family, and isn’t genuinely interested in what you’re looking for.
Start off on the right foot and seek a woman that shares your interests, values and intentions.
Can I Find Women Just Looking for Intimacy?
If you’re just looking for intimacy, most Thai dating sites probably aren’t the place for you. Though you could check out the last recommendation in my list below.
You’ll notice that on most profiles women state that they are seeking a life partner, soul mate or “good man”, as opposed to a one-night stand.
If you do see a profile advertising a bit of fun in the sack, you can almost guarantee you’ll end up paying for it, or at least having to entertain the woman financially for a period of time.
That said, these experiences will vary by site, as you can find out in the reviews below.
6 Best Thai Dating Websites
With a membership database of 1.5 million, and a whopping 70% of the female online Thai dating network, if I were to enter the Thai dating world now, ThaiCupid would be my first choice.
Operated by Cupidmedia, a company that owns many other dating sites in a broad range of ethnic niches, TC is probably the most well known dating site for foreign men seeking Thai women.
It has been going for over 10 years.
If you want a broad selection of genuine women with a decent job, 21-40 years old, this site is a good place to begin.
On my most recent visit I found 2,136 people online, and over 1,000 active profiles for the aforementioned age group.
Like all dating sites, functionality is restricted to the membership you have.
Thai Cupid is free to join, but with free you can only send 1 message every 15 minutes and you won't be able to message all members (some have restricted profiles that only paid members can view).
This is a tad frustrating because you have to wait for the response too. But hey, it's free! Send a message, make a cup of tea..then repeat.
Free membership won't get you video chat either, which is a great feature to use once you've established a connection with someone.
The better your membership level also determines how far up in the search results your profile will appear; so bear in mind that those extra few dollars can make a big difference to your success.
One great feature of ThaiCupid is the translation service that comes with the Gold package ($34.99 per month / or $69.99 for 3 months – that's less than a dollar a day).
This translates messages for both parties, preventing cross wires and assisting in breaking down the language barrier.
For higher profile visibility, unlimited message sending and video messaging capability, go Platinum ($39.99 a month / or $79.99 per month – that's still less than a dollar a day)
The paid plans aren't expensive when you think of it on a day-to-day basis:
- 1 month – $34.99 / £23.33
- 3 months – $69.99 / £46.66 (Good value at less than a dollar a day)
- 12 months – $139.99 / £93.33 (Best value at less than 0.50 Cents a day)
- 1 month – $39.99 / £27.49
- 3 months – $79.99 / £54.99 (Good value at less than a dollar a day)
- 12 months – $159.99 / £109.99 (Best value at less than 0.50 Cents a day)
For everything in Gold, plus video messaging capability, go Platinum. For an extra few dollars I'd say it's worth it to be able to communicate face-to-face with a potential dream date!
ThaiFriendly.com has gained solid popularity among the expat community and overseas seekers over the last few years, growing to a huge 1M+ members.
The site is popular because it caters for a slightly different crowd to ThaiCupid.
By that I mean you a broader cross-section of women, such as younger women (think uni students and singles in the city) seeking a bit more of a “fun” relationship, rather than those women of an age where settling down is a priority.
I always think approaching dating too seriously can land you in as much hot water as going in too loosely, so to speak.
Searching around I got the distinct feeling a few of the profiles I saw were women playing away from home, which may well appeal to some.
I’d certainly give ThaiFriendly a bash, if not just because it’s a fun place to socialize and make “special friends”.
ThaiFriendly is free to register and there's no obligation for a paid membership. You can begin sending messages straight away, but bear in mind that to begin chatting on instant messenger and have live chats you'll need to upgrade.
The pricing structure hasn't changed much in the last 5 years. It operates a simple, flat rate fee, which is reflective of its overall “easy-going” vibe.
- Option A) $24.95 for a 30-day membership
- Option B) $49.95 for a 3-month membership
- Option C) $69.95 for 6 month
- Option D) $99.95 for a 1-year (365-day) membership
AsianDating is often overlooked because people head straight to ThaiCupid. But don’t forget that Thai women live over the world, and indeed there are great women of other South East Asian origin living in Thailand, too.
If you are seeking to start a long-distance relationship, you might also do well to consider Asian Dating.
This site has a good global reach, so you might meet an Asian lady in your home country, Thailand, or a country other than Thailand.
By nature, this makes AsianDating a place with a diverse membership and some fantastic single women to chat with.
Like sister site ThaiCupid, Asiandating is also owned by CupidMedia, and is very popular with expats living in Thailand, Singapore, Malaysia, and China, and also guys living in the US and UK.
If you want to open your mind beyond Thai women, you’ll find a lot of women on here from the Philippines, China, Malaysia, and Indonesia.
The membership pricing and functions unlocked by upgrading from free to a paid plan is essentially the same as ThaiCupid but a bit cheaper.
- 1 month – $29.99
- 3 months – $59.99
- 12 months – $119.99
- 1 month – $34.99
- 3 months – $69.99
- 12 months – $149.99
If Thailand's third gender is your preference, MyLadyBoyDate is the platform for you.
There are ladyboys from all over the world on the site but predominately from Asia, mostly Thailand and the Philippines.
The owners of the site (a couple – man and ladyboy) take the business very seriously and are hot on keeping the site for serious members only.
It's actually free for transgender woman, which naturally has resulted in a large membership base (110k members).
The fact that men have to pay has created a barrier for entry and means that only serious members gain access, and probably the reason so many relationship have emerged from this dating site.
- 110,000+ profiles (rigorously screened)
- Instant messaging feature
- Compatible with smartphones and tablets
- Safe and discreet
You can read an in depth MyLadyBoyDate review here.
Premium membership is $29.90 per month, with advantageous discounts if you buy several months.
MizzThai is a fairly new Thai dating site with an interesting, unique concept.
It's centred around travel and fun and aimed at the solo male traveler who wants a companion for adventure; not necessarily someone serious who wants love or long-term partnership. Though it could turn into that.
Sounds great, right? An attractive girl on your arm for two weeks as you travel the Land of Smiles!
I think this concept will suit those who want to focus on their travels, with romance and companionship of secondary importance.
You should, however, consider that a woman who can just travel at the drop of a hat is either:
A) well-off and doesn't need to work
B) A business owner who can work from anywhere
C) a “dating professional”, so to speak.
I personally don't think this platform is for those seeking a meaningful relationship, as it is likely to attract girls just out for a free trip, fine wine and frolics and fun, which is great if that's what you want.
Okay, so Smooci is not your traditional dating platform, but not everyone is looking for a serious relationship. Some of us just want a bit of fun.
It's certainly worth a mention – and I guess no date is ever really free, anyway, right?
It's essentially a “Thai dating” site for those looking for short-term companionship; think men on business flying in for a few nights or those on short stay holidays.
But it also serves a purpose for those who don't enjoy spending time in the bar scene, or just don't like the very public concept of bar-based negotiations.
Think of Smooci like Uber but for paid dating:
You register an account, type in your preferences and how long you want to spend together, choose your date from the matches given, and then track her progress, with the precise location of your date and her estimated time of arrival displayed on the screen.
If you're interested, I have a detailed review of how Smooci works here.
Before you book, you can read the reviews of others, and rate your experience afterwards.
I think this service is quite innovative, and may be a positive for both parties going forward. It provides an element of protection/safety for both parties, as there’s a digital footprint of the transaction and the meet up.
It also enables women working in this side of dating to have more autonomy over their work. They can work when they choose to and aren't beholden to the demands of the bar. I wouldn't recommend it for meeting the love of your life, though!
Smooci is free to sign up and use, but for as little as $9.99 you can go premium and get a bunch of much-needed features such as:
- Photo verification (make sure your date looks like her photo)
- GPS tracking
- 24-hour booking (book a date within 2 hours)
- Read user comments (see what others are saying)
Research shows that the secret to success in online dating is to aim high, keep it brief and persevere (2).
- Send lots of messages: keep persevering
- Aim high: set your bar high, even if you think a person is out of your league, go for it.
- Keep it brief: don't send people essays, keep communication to the point
- Be patient: women, especially, tend not to rush in. So be patient and be prepared to play a long game.
I wish you the best of luck with your search for a wonderful Thai lady, and believe me there are loads out there.
Remember: people seldom spend time writing about how great their relationship is, which means you tend only to read about the bad experiences online.
Thai women are generally fabulous people. Trust me, I know, I married one!
If you met your partner on a Thai dating site, please feel free to share your experiences in the comments section below so that you can help others do the same.
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