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You are here: Home / Culture / How to Do the Perfect Thai Wai (to the Right Person at the Appropriate Time)

How to Do the Perfect Thai Wai (to the Right Person at the Appropriate Time)

The Thai wai is not just a way of saying “hello” but a gesture of respect that represents the social status of the recipient. It is also used as an accompaniment to an apology,

The wai is similar in culture to the Indian namaste and Burmese mingalaba, and is an integral part of organizing the complex social hierarchy that binds Thai society together.

It can be said that properly understanding the Thai wai – knowing when to use it, how to use it and with who – is a solid step towards understanding the way Thai society works.

While as a foreigner you may feel inclined to treat everyone as an equal, wai'ing those of obvious social inferiority may create a situation of awkwardness for the inferior.

Strange to us, maybe, but culturally true in Thailand.

The key to delivering the correct wai is to remember this basic rule: The social inferior always receives the lower wai, and the social superior always receives the higher wai.

By lower I am referring to the position of the hands and how far down you bow your head.

That being said, on occasion you may see exceptions to this rule.

For example, you might see a Thai person return a wai to a child out of fun or affection. But as a foreigner it is advisable not to do this, and instead stick to the guidelines set out below.

Thais instinctively know when a wai is appropriate because they have grown up with this custom, but we foreign-folk don't have this built-in understanding.

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How to Perform a Wai

A wai is performed by pressing the palms together while keeping the fingers and thumbs closed together.

The fingers are pointed upwards and the elbows are neatly tucked in. keep your back straight.

In the modern day (generally), the head is lowered so that the nose falls towards the top of the fingers.

However, traditionally, and more so seen in rural areas these days, the back of the thumbs tend to be brought upwards toward the face (nose area) in a more pronounced manner, and the nose rested on top of the thumbs – often regardless of the status of the person being wai-ed.

I would suggest sticking with the more modern approach, as it is easier to “over wai” with the latter.

The lower the head comes down to meet the thumbs of the hands, the greater the respect being shown.

In some instances, as we we will explore below, the hands adopt a higher position in relation to the head.

Make sure you keep your elbows tucked in when you perform a wai; foreigners have a tendency to let their elbows spread out and raise upwards.

People also have a tendency to rush the wai when in fact it should be graceful and controlled in its execution.

Don't go too slowly and make a big deal of it, but don't flick your hands up and down like you can't be bothered.

Who to Wai & How?

1. Someone of equal status or when you are unsure of someone’s status:

Pull your hands close to your body, elbows in with fingertips reaching to about neck level (see image above) but not above your chin. Now lower your head. This is a good enough wai in everyday situations.

2. Someone of lower status than you

Follow the same instructions as number 1, but this time keep your head straight or only slightly inclined as you wai. You can also keep your hands fairly low, since the height of the hands is an indication of the other person's status of authority.

3. Someone of higher status than you.

This time, lower your head so your fingertips reach above the tip of your nose. you can bring your hands up higher in this instance.

4. Monks and Buddha images

To wai a monk, press your palms together and raise them up to your nose, keeping your elbows tucked in.

Now bow your head into your thumbs. Some people will pull their thumbs right up into their forehead (while lowering the head, of course) in this situation.

There is a good example in the video below.

When at a temple, depending on the occasion, it may be appropriate to get on your knees and wai, but have a look at what others are doing first.

Traditionally, in the temple, men sit on their heels, and women with their legs to one side. The idea is to bend your head and body, lowering from the waist down, while keeping your bottom as low as possible.

When your head is almost touching the floor, place your palms on the floor (traditionally, the right hand should touch the floor first) and rest your head on top of your clasped palms in the wai position.

Now straighten back up to the seated wai position. If wai-ing a Buddha image, this process is generally repeated three times.

Wai Dos & Don'ts

  • Do not wai children, servants, laborers, street sellers or other people with an obviously lower status than yourself. However, if you are friends with any of the above people, and say hello or speak to them on a regular basis, you might choose to respond with an equal or casual wai.
  • Do wai the elderly. Strictly speaking, you shouldn't wai the elderly if they are in a working capacity as a servant or street vendor, but I think this is a bit of a grey area, as I see many Thais do this.
  • Do not wai bar girls.
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Children performing a standard wai. From this point the head would be lowered towards the hands while keeping the back straight.

  • Do not get offended if a child or other social inferior doesn’t wai you. Thais are often unsure as to whether to wai foreigners, since they know foreigners do not perform wais in their home countries.
  • Do wai a monk if you go to speak with one at the temple, although there is no need to wai every monk you see walking down the street. You should, however, step aside and allow the monk ample space to walk past unhindered. If you are woman, step keep your distance from monks if they are walking towards you: Monks take a vow of celibacy and women are expected to keep their distance to make this easier.
  • Don’t keep wai-ing everyone for everything. Overusing a wai will make you look silly and devalue its meaning.

A Final Word on Wais

If in doubt, unless it is a child or other person obviously of a lower status, simply return the same wai you are offered.

It's easy to get hung up on whether you are wai-ing correctly, but it doesn't matter to Thai people if you get it wrong.

People understand that you are trying to do the right thing and appropriate the culture. This is appreciated and no one is going to think badly of you for performing an incorrect wai.

In fact, in the video above, Khun Mod gets it wrong and writes a note of correction at the bottom of the edited video that states what she should have done.

The thing is, she didn't really get it wrong as much as it wasn't done in the very traditional way. Like many traditions, the execution changes from generation to generation, and even region to region.

Please note that this is a general guide to point you in the right direction. You will see variation among Thais themselves.

Some men wai everyone pretty highly, and some women use a really elegant wai every time, while others flash a fairly quick, low wai each time because they aren't really into the whole “wai” thing.

Credit: Some of the information in this article was researched from the book Culture Shock! Thailand, By Robert & Nanthapa Cooper.

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  1. Martin says

    February 15, 2016 at 5:18 am

    I mean - if I understood it right - the higher the Status of the Person you are looking at, one's Hand have to be.

    As a foreigner, as a Tourist, I would wai to Service personell, or Hotel employees.
    To them I smile and say a nice "Hello!". I have never mad bad experiences with that rule.
    In a Business context it would be different though.
    Reply

    Feb 15, 2016 at 5:18 am

    • TheThailandLife says

      February 15, 2016 at 10:23 am

      It really depends on the situation. The more time you spend in Thailand the more you get a feel for when the wai is appropriate or not. As I said in the post though, no one is going to be angry if you give the wrong wai because the culture is foreign to you and people accept that. Most people are just grateful that you are trying to appropriate the culture. It isn't necessary to regularly wai service staff or hotel employees, and in terms of social structure this wouldn't be correct. That said, when you check out, you might offer a wai to particular members of staff that you have become friendly with on your holiday, or perhaps when a member of staff goes above and beyond their duty to help you out. But there's no need to offer wais all the time.
      Reply

      Feb 15, 2016 at 10:23 am

  2. Noppadom says

    November 22, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Wow thank you so much for explain how Thai people wai. I showed this my dad and he was amazing that a foreigner understand this so well. !!
    Reply

    Nov 22, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    • TheThailandLife says

      November 24, 2015 at 1:22 pm

      Thanks Noppadom! Nice to hear that from a Thai person.
      Reply

      Nov 24, 2015 at 1:22 pm

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